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In Focus
Bachelors’ Inc
Discover why some successful men never married
Danny Thomas said, “All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don't discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you do in life for yourself. It's what you do for others.” But what happens if you have no one to share your success with?
Atal Behari Vajpayee, A.P.J Abdul Kalam and Ratan Tata are few examples of successful individuals who are also bachelors. If sharing the fruit of success makes it sweeter, then how do these individuals digest the diluted feeling of being alone? Or is it, that their single hood status itself is the secret of their success?
Shaadi.com spoke to some bachelors who are highly successful in their professions to discover why they never married.
Too independent to be tied down
Sanjeev Arole, 40, consultant with a private firm is a victim of his highly independent lifestyle. “I am at a stage where ‘falling in love’ is not the criteria for marriage. I need a person who will adjust to my lifestyle. And if the partner herself is a career woman and an achiever in her own right, as I want her to be, then there is even lesser scope for making compromises and adjustments. Besides, there is the constant fear of someone intruding into your life,” admits Sanjeev.
“I have had affairs in the past, but I did not find anyone who could suit my temperament. It may sound strange, but I have never fallen in love,” says Sanjeev. “Moreover, since I could not complete my Chartered Accountancy, there was a constant desire to prove myself. Therefore, there was no question of settling down then. Today, I have everything in life but no life partner. I do not miss the physicality of a relationship; my work stresses me out so. It is the emotional aspect of sharing and loving that I crave for. It makes me lonely,” he confesses.
For the love of Academics
Dr. Laxmikant Dwivedi, 47 never pursued marriage. He was only after academics. With a double doctorate in medicine and as a professor in a law college, Dr. Dwivedi let his love for learning overrule his yearning for love. “Marriage would have meant family responsibilities and different priorities, but as a bachelor, my time is only mine,” he says.
“Being single gives me all the time to think and indulge in the things I want to do. Besides, reading and teaching keep me so busy that there is little scope to feel lonely. But I do crave for some emotional company and that makes me alone. Nonetheless, I think, that a single man is in a better position to cope with life than a single woman. Society raises eyebrows at a single woman making her feel vulnerable, but not towards an unmarried man. The only crisis a bachelor faces is that of fending for food and doing the household chores. But then, I stay with my brother’s family, so even that problem is taken care of.”
“Fifteen years ago, I did fall in love but with time I realised that it wasn’t love and there were many adjustments to be made, which I wasn’t prepared for. However, I am not averse to getting married if I find someone with whom I can share my interests,” he says.
Love happens only once
Vinod Ramakrishnan, 55, is wedded to his work, but if fate had willed otherwise, he would have been a much-married man. “I fell in love just once in my life. It was during our physiotherapy classes,” he recalls. “My priorities would have been different if I had been married. I would have been a husband, a father and a nurturer, but today I am just a therapist.”
The love of his life passed away before they could tie the knot. “I felt a part of me died with her. After that I did not feel like committing myself again and got completely involved with work,” remembers Vinod. “Not having someone to talk to can be killing, so I try to spend maximum time in my clinic just to get away from the loneliness. I don’t think I want marriage at this age. Who would want an old man for a husband, anyway?”
Vinod feels that a single woman is better off than a single man as she can juggle both work and home duties; a man can never handle both. “Over the years, I have only managed to prepare tea and omelette and for the daily chores, I have a maid. When you are young and successful you feel you own the world, but later in life, you crave for a companion,” he says.
Blissful Bachelorhood
Aspi Bhesania is not too upset that he missed the marriage bus. As he says: “It is better to be alone than find someone who is not worth being your partner.” This 46- year old practising Chartered Accountant wants a simple girl for marriage - someone who can cook and clean; that’s why he is still single.
He recalls a funny incident when he had gone to ‘see’ a girl. “The girl’s monthly income was Rs. 4000 but she said she would need Rs. 30,000 to spend. This astonished me and I asked her the reason. She said she wanted the luxuries of life. Why would I take the liability of this woman? I just walked away,” he narrates.
“I have had my share of affairs, but the heart-breaks were too much to handle. It dissuaded me from getting into a marital bond then. Besides, my work schedule and lifestyle took most of my time,” says Aspi. “There is no feeling of seclusion in life as I have many friends. Through the week, I am busy with work and on holidays, I have all the household chores to do. Furthermore, I make excellent food and clean my home to perfection.”
Natasha Havewala
Save These Men
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In Focus
Bachelors’ Inc
Discover why some successful men never married
Danny Thomas said, “All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don't discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you do in life for yourself. It's what you do for others.” But what happens if you have no one to share your success with?
Atal Behari Vajpayee, A.P.J Abdul Kalam and Ratan Tata are few examples of successful individuals who are also bachelors. If sharing the fruit of success makes it sweeter, then how do these individuals digest the diluted feeling of being alone? Or is it, that their single hood status itself is the secret of their success?
Shaadi.com spoke to some bachelors who are highly successful in their professions to discover why they never married.
Too independent to be tied down
Sanjeev Arole, 40, consultant with a private firm is a victim of his highly independent lifestyle. “I am at a stage where ‘falling in love’ is not the criteria for marriage. I need a person who will adjust to my lifestyle. And if the partner herself is a career woman and an achiever in her own right, as I want her to be, then there is even lesser scope for making compromises and adjustments. Besides, there is the constant fear of someone intruding into your life,” admits Sanjeev.
“I have had affairs in the past, but I did not find anyone who could suit my temperament. It may sound strange, but I have never fallen in love,” says Sanjeev. “Moreover, since I could not complete my Chartered Accountancy, there was a constant desire to prove myself. Therefore, there was no question of settling down then. Today, I have everything in life but no life partner. I do not miss the physicality of a relationship; my work stresses me out so. It is the emotional aspect of sharing and loving that I crave for. It makes me lonely,” he confesses.
For the love of Academics
Dr. Laxmikant Dwivedi, 47 never pursued marriage. He was only after academics. With a double doctorate in medicine and as a professor in a law college, Dr. Dwivedi let his love for learning overrule his yearning for love. “Marriage would have meant family responsibilities and different priorities, but as a bachelor, my time is only mine,” he says.
“Being single gives me all the time to think and indulge in the things I want to do. Besides, reading and teaching keep me so busy that there is little scope to feel lonely. But I do crave for some emotional company and that makes me alone. Nonetheless, I think, that a single man is in a better position to cope with life than a single woman. Society raises eyebrows at a single woman making her feel vulnerable, but not towards an unmarried man. The only crisis a bachelor faces is that of fending for food and doing the household chores. But then, I stay with my brother’s family, so even that problem is taken care of.”
“Fifteen years ago, I did fall in love but with time I realised that it wasn’t love and there were many adjustments to be made, which I wasn’t prepared for. However, I am not averse to getting married if I find someone with whom I can share my interests,” he says.
Love happens only once
Vinod Ramakrishnan, 55, is wedded to his work, but if fate had willed otherwise, he would have been a much-married man. “I fell in love just once in my life. It was during our physiotherapy classes,” he recalls. “My priorities would have been different if I had been married. I would have been a husband, a father and a nurturer, but today I am just a therapist.”
The love of his life passed away before they could tie the knot. “I felt a part of me died with her. After that I did not feel like committing myself again and got completely involved with work,” remembers Vinod. “Not having someone to talk to can be killing, so I try to spend maximum time in my clinic just to get away from the loneliness. I don’t think I want marriage at this age. Who would want an old man for a husband, anyway?”
Vinod feels that a single woman is better off than a single man as she can juggle both work and home duties; a man can never handle both. “Over the years, I have only managed to prepare tea and omelette and for the daily chores, I have a maid. When you are young and successful you feel you own the world, but later in life, you crave for a companion,” he says.
Blissful Bachelorhood
Aspi Bhesania is not too upset that he missed the marriage bus. As he says: “It is better to be alone than find someone who is not worth being your partner.” This 46- year old practising Chartered Accountant wants a simple girl for marriage - someone who can cook and clean; that’s why he is still single.
He recalls a funny incident when he had gone to ‘see’ a girl. “The girl’s monthly income was Rs. 4000 but she said she would need Rs. 30,000 to spend. This astonished me and I asked her the reason. She said she wanted the luxuries of life. Why would I take the liability of this woman? I just walked away,” he narrates.
“I have had my share of affairs, but the heart-breaks were too much to handle. It dissuaded me from getting into a marital bond then. Besides, my work schedule and lifestyle took most of my time,” says Aspi. “There is no feeling of seclusion in life as I have many friends. Through the week, I am busy with work and on holidays, I have all the household chores to do. Furthermore, I make excellent food and clean my home to perfection.”
Natasha Havewala
Save These Men
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