Post by harsha on Feb 17, 2004 12:37:31 GMT -5
30 Truths About Relationships
By Rinatta Paries
I recently pondered the many lessons and concepts my
clients and I have learned during my coaching career.
Before long, I had compiled a useful list of important
and valuable relationship truths.
If you apply any one of these truths, you are certain
to see an immediate improvement in the quality of your
relationships. Please take what applies to you and
incorporate it into your life to create a relationship
you cherish.
• It's your job to educate your partner about how to
treat you so you feel loved.
• Communication doesn't mean talking. It means
sharing.
• Infidelity is the surest way to destroy a
relationship.
• Generosity is rarely about money or things. It's
mostly about heart.
• Until you resolve your past, you are not free to
have a future.
• What people do to you is rarely about you and is
almost always about their unresolved past. Don't take
it personally.
• Until you realize that a great relationship is
created by who you are, you won't have one.
• Until you love yourself enough to take care of your
needs, no one else will.
• If you feel empty, a relationship will most likely
make you feel even emptier.
• Compassion for your partner goes a long way in
getting what you want.
• Sexual intimacy has very little to do with
attractiveness and everything to do with emotional
intimacy and trust.
• Women rarely appreciate money and assistance as a
substitute for emotional intimacy.
• If your partner continuously says, "There is
nothing wrong with me. Our problems are all your
fault," get help.
• This is not a dress rehearsal -- this is your life
and your relationships in progress. Start creating
your life the way you want it to be today.
• You are not your parents. There is no reason your
relationship or life should look like theirs.
• It's much easier to be yourself than to be what you
think others want you to be.
• Even when someone loves you more than life itself,
they will still look out for their interests first. .
• Being a people-pleaser is not an effective way to
create good relationships. It is an effective way to
get taken advantage of.
• If you always take care of someone, you take away
their power. They will resent you for it.
• Supporting men financially takes away their
self-esteem. Give them moral support instead.
• The best relationships are partnerships.
• If you get to be right most of the time and make
your partner take all of the blame, you will end up
alone.
• A relationship with a foundation of dishonesty is
like a house of cards.
• Grass only looks greener on the other side.
• You may secretly wonder if there isn't a better
partner out there. This is your mind's way of
communicating that you are dangerously close to real
intimacy with your current partner.
• If your partner says he is willing to grow and
change, don't test him. Support him in his commitment.
• Emotional maturity is knowing when you are
overreacting. Stop and take care of your needs so you
can get back in balance.
• What you think you want is often not what you
really want, but rather a sideways plot to get your
needs met.
• If you ask, very often you will receive.
• Communication means two-way understanding, not
one-way accusing.